We had our first fight...

Well my husband and I had our first fight about weather or not Kaytlyn has Aspergers.. Ive become pretty obsessed with trying to find as much information as I possibly can about the disorder, the treatments available, etc and he hasnt shown any intrest in even the possibility. I cant stand that.. he thinks that mental illnesses and shrinks are totally the devil or something. He has the thought process of "how did everyone survive before us with all of these syndromes" which is all well and good for himself. But not for our child. Its not about surviving really its about understanding. Understanding her needs that later on we will know more about. he has this image of a shrink brain washing her which yea im sure it happens but we will do everything possible to not let that happen.. I have had very good psychatrists luckily so im not as anti shrink that he is. Anyway we had a fight because I want to pursue this and he doesnt. And his reasons are because "his step mom as evil as she is put him in counseling as a kid because it was his fault she was crazy" well im sorry but that is not my reasoning for wanting to look into this more. I simply want to understand her needs better, give her a better life and learn about her more. i dont want to brain wash her to think she is disabled in any way because she is not. She will just be high needs is all which is nothing new to us. There will jsut be a reason for it and alot of resources to help us with helping her. She didnt come with a manual like all kids and she definately didnt come with an aspergers manual either. So we will be pursuing a evaluation who knows how long it will take and hopefully our insurance will help cover it.. Those are issues that we will just have to look into as we go. Its really hard to fatham the thought of not getting her the resources simply because we cant afford it. I just cant allow that.. we may go into debt because of it but i cant allow the resources to be passed up because we cant afford it. I am willing to do whatever it takes and I didnt realize how true that was till we had a fight.. I hope he jumps on this ride soon or it will just push us further away..